Perfectionism in all its forms causes him suffering and disappointment, because of the pressure he imposes on himself to be able to cope with the demands of society, his education or sometimes even his own pride. He is almost never satisfied with his achievements, his successes or himself. This behaviour leads him to complain continuously, due to the pressure and criticism he inflicts on himself. The perfectionist justifies the demands he puts on himself, arguing that they push him to achieve (his focus is on the ‘doing’, to the detriment of ‘being’). What impact does perfectionism have on his wellbeing and leadership? He rarely celebrates his successes doesn’t like obstacles and can be defensive when faced with feedback, perceiving it as an attack. He is sharply critical and judgemental of himself and sees his failures as confirmation of his poor performance. He dismisses his own victories and continuously forces himself to give his best without allowing himself to enjoy life’s small pleasures. He obsesses over details that nobody else notices and frequently loses himself in them. His life philosophy is that he will either succeed or fail, with no in-between. What about the perfectionist?Ī perfectionist is a close relative to a pessimist. He ends up being healthier, calmer, and building better relationships with others etc.
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He is fully mindful, understanding deeply the difference between being and doing, and knows how to balance the two. What impact does optimalism have on his wellbeing and Leadership?Īs an optimalist knows how to appreciate his actions, he knows how to welcome what life brings him with gratefulness and authenticity. He acts on the suggestions of others, understanding that he can benefit from their feedback. He is humble and knows when and how to ask for help. He uses his failures as a source of learning and knows that they are part of life. He learns and grows from his experiences, always giving the best of himself so that he is able to manage any feelings of guilt. He knows how to appreciate and celebrate his victories, even on his own. He accepts differences, is flexible and open to changing his mind with humility. His philosophy is to appreciate partial successes as well as overcoming and accepting small failures. Let’s start with the “optimalist”Īn “optimalist” is a realistic optimist he accepts the idea that he has to make choices and compromises in life. The concept of “optimalism” (and its relationship with perfectionism) is an interesting concept I discovered when reading “3 kifs par jour” by the French author Florence Servan-Schreiber. Optimalism, perfectionism, their impact on our wellbeing and leadership